Codependency, Narcissism

Patterns of “Failed Love”

In his book “If Love Could Think” Gratch outlines seven patterns of “failed love” relationships that he has observed through treatment of patients. I have included them in this section on Codependency because I personally believe that many of them are reflected in codependent relationships. The first pattern is Narcissistic Love. Narcissists are needy, often self-destructive people …

Codependency, Narcissism

What Happens When a Codependent Cares Too Much?

A Dependent doesn’t naturally take responsibility for the consequences of their own behaviour. A Codependent who takes on another persons responsibility doesn’t assist that person to get better by rescuing them, if anything they become more Dependent. This leads to them taking advantage of the Codependent who becomes overburdened, resentful and ultimately angry/vengeful as they …

Codependency, Narcissism

Characteristics of Codependency in a Person’s Behaviour

Beattie stresses that Codependents are reactionaries. They react to other people’s problems, emotions, needs, behaviours etc. and that when these problems, emotions, needs and behaviours become more intense the Codependent reacts more intensely. They become over-involved. “Overinvolvement of any sort can keep us in a state of chaos; it can keep the people around us in …

Newsletters

Newsletter #5 – March 2025

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RTL News When Right to Love and professionals say there is pathology in family courts, the pathology in question is attachment pathology. Such pathology often leads to unhealthy narcissism, severely maladaptive attachment styles and personality disorders. Parents and professionals in family courts will have varying degrees of narcissism, some will have too much and others …

BPD, Narcissism

Can BPD be Cured?

Despite suffering from a greater narcissistic disturbance, the prognosis for successful treatment of a patient with BPD is better than that of a patient with NPD. Those with BPD are more likely to be referred for help based on their self-harming behaviour and thanks to their guilty feelings in periods of regret they are more …